Start a New Holiday Tradition

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In an ideal world, holidays would stay fixed in time, stuck on endless replay at our happiest moment when everyone we love is present, smiling, with a full plate and a happy heart. No one would ever pass away, move away, split up, get sick, go off to war, or have a canceled flight. Real life, however, is in a constant state of flux, and that's rarely made so poignant as during the holidays when most people are comfortable sticking to traditions. This year, try embracing a little bit of change. It might just embrace you back.

Invite a Stray

Most people have at some point been left at loose ends on a holiday, and presented with the option of either exploring opportunities or going it alone. Make it easy and defuse any potential shyness by letting guests know how much their presence would enhance your gathering, and giving them a job to do. If they're convinced that your holiday dinner will be completely dismal if they don't show up with the yams, there's a mighty good chance they'll come.

Make Room for Newcomers

For all the bliss that new marriage brings, chances are that in the early years, at least one half of the couple will be giving up their usual holiday routine. The hosting side of the family can ease the transition by making space on the menu for the new spouse's must-have holiday dish, room on the schedule for observance of a holiday ritual they might like to share with their new in-laws, and a quiet space where they can duck out and check in with the folks who are no doubt missing them.

Raise a Toast

The absence of a loved one, due to military service, financial hardship, illness or death can often cast a pall over what should otherwise be a happy occasion. If it feels appropriate, have the assembled guests take a moment to acknowledge the missing family member or friend with a raised glass and a sweet remembrance. They'll feel the warmth, even if it's from a distance, and guests who are lucky enough to be present will know that if some year they can't make it, folks will remember them with a toast.

Invent a Ritual

There's great comfort in traditions, but they all had to start somewhere. Take a chance on a side dish, beverage or sweet treat from another culture. Read a brand new holiday story aloud, learn a new song or explore volunteering. If it's the right thing, you'll have something to look forward to next year.